broken hearts, unbroken faith
A 3:30 a.m. call shattered the stillness and darkness of that early morning. It was from our son Jonathan with news that one of our beloved young pastors had taken his life. His wife was on her way to the hospital and needed a pastor to come immediately.
Loud cries, tears, questions, and more tears. With each passing day, I sense afresh the reality of the brokenness of this world we live in; and the hidden brokenness suffered by one I knew and loved. I cannot wrap my mind around this. So unexpected. So inexplicable.
How strange that we who are fragile, mortal clay, should in moments like these be required to hold such truth and treasure in tension. I am perplexed. Did you know that at times, even the great apostle Paul was perplexed as well? As he wrote, “. . . we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us. We are . . . perplexed, but not driven to despair…” (2 Corinthians 4:7-8).
Not everyone likes puzzles. Greg can walk by a puzzle and never give it another glance, but not me. Normally, I love puzzles—to sit for hours making a pile of random pieces into a beautiful picture. But I cannot make the pieces of this one fit neatly together. At times like this, I am at a loss for words. I have no answers or explanations for the depth of this sorrow.
But this I know. There is One who hears and understands.
There is One who shed tears of pain and anger at death. And I know enough of my Lord Jesus to trust that He alone can bridge the chasm of broken hearts and unbroken faith.
How do I know? Because of the testimony of Scripture. His Word remains true. My faith is not shaken, neither is my commitment to serving women and our mission at Virtue. If anything, I am all the more determined to equip women with the Word of God. This is how we grow in grace and experience stability . . . no matter what happens.
Just days after Pastor Jarrid took his life, our Virtue leaders gathered to prepare for a new season of Bible study. While this is a season of shock and great sadness, we are committed to study and know God through His Word. This is of greatest value and we will come through this.
I confess how weak I have felt navigating these uncharted waters. News like this can be immobilizing and disorienting. But in the midst of it, I hear clearly the Lord’s promise and the charge He gives to all of us, even as He gave to Moses. I am the Lord and I will be with you. Know Me, know My ways. I am leading you out in order to lead you in.
God used Moses to lead the people out of bondage and captivity—not merely so they would have freedom—but in order that they would know Him, the source of life and life abundantly. His Word, the Bible, is that story, start to finish.
This testing of our faith is refining. It is refocusing. It is revealing. Yes, we are perplexed, but not despairing. God is still working in the midst of this messy, broken world.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
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Kim | September 26, 2019
Cathe and Greg, please know many prayers are with you all! May the Lord fill you with his grace and mercy, comfort and strength. We love you! God loves you!
Sincerely,
Kim Daniel
Teresa Ketcham | September 27, 2019
Cathe, me and my husband were just talking last night about this broken world ..I have a niece that's battled with drugs and we talked about how sad this world is. I told him I don't understand so much but I refuse to give up on her and I refuse to not trust God.. you are in our prayers at this difficult time.
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precy gonzalo | September 27, 2019
Cathy, I am one with the Aaron's and Hur's lifting you with Greg the whole church-me included in prayer more this days. God is real! He loves us too much! I RAISE A HALLELUJAH!
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Joyce | September 26, 2019
My heart is broken. Jarrid and your precious son are indeed in heaven being loved up by God Himself. My prayers and loving support are with you all. I understand the pain of losing a loved one. I also am battling cancer myself and God is my refuge. Sending my prayers and heartfelt condolences along with knowledge we are not alone. God is with us!!! Love in Christ. Joyce
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Luisa Orozco | September 26, 2019
Thank you. This was beautiful.
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Victoria Wilhelm | September 26, 2019
Cathe,
Sooo well said.
We pray that Jesus Christ's love will continue to soothe and heal our church family's hearts.
God Bless You,
Victoria
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Marilyn Quinn-Dilley | September 26, 2019
How different the death of a believer as opposed to those who have no hope. We are wracked with pain, but we still have hope. Thank you for sharing your very real feelings!
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Adri Peredia | September 26, 2019
I loved this, thank you for sharing and always encouraging us! We thank you for all that you and Pastor Greg do. We love you both!
Thank you!
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Pam Dromgoole | September 26, 2019
I’m so sorry for the loss of another young pastor . I attend Inland Hills in Chino where we lost Pastor Andrew. Trying to make sense of all these horrible tragedies ❤️
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Trisha Adams | September 26, 2019
What a beautiful picture of hope, even in such a dark season, in Christ we are more than conquerors. ♡ blessings!
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Ann Pierson | September 26, 2019
So sorry to hear about your friend, we will be praying for you and all those he touched during his time on this side of HEAVEN. I have a prayer request, a friend of my daughter just had their first child. He was born at 26 wks and weigh less than 2 lbs. His name is Wyatt and is in the hospital in Knoxville, TN. Please remember him and his parents in your prayers, they lost their first baby a little over a year ago about the same time in the pregnancy. Thank you
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Donna Nunes | September 26, 2019
Praying for all of you, that the God of all comfort would continue to wrap His loving arms around you all and pour out His peace that passes all human understanding. That He would continue to guard your mind and hearts and you fully and completely put your hope and trust in Him. It isn't easy, but as you said it is what we know to do, when we don't know what to do.
Grace and peace
Donna Nunes
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Sherry Copeland | September 26, 2019
Thank you Cathe; May I add that many in the Body of Christ have, unfortunately experienced the shock and trauma of suicide. God’s Word is still trustworthy; I too feel weak, but we know that we know, He is stronger. Love Sherry
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Barb | September 26, 2019
I appreciate you sharing. Praying for Pastor Greg, you, Juli & her boys and the Harvest staff. My heart goes out to you all with tears. I too am perplexed but I know the Lord is with us.
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Karen Wisneski | September 26, 2019
Beautifully written as usual, Cathe. I truly appreciate your vulnerability, and honesty. I think so many of us think we need to 'fake fine'. Thank you for always leading us faithfully to Him.
Thank you for always sharing your heart. Christ shines bright thru you. Blessings
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Leslie Corpuz | September 26, 2019
Even in the midst of great sadness and puzzlement you bless and encourage us, your sisters in Christ. What a wonderful Lord we serve. I am so thankful for those He uses to touch my life with wisdom, comfort and inspiration. And I am so thankful for the love and comfort He is delivering to all of you in the loss of your dear one.
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Lisa Foster | September 26, 2019
Thank you for your words of encouragement.
I remember the little boat in the storm, then Peter asking Jesus if that was HIm walking towards them on water. Only Peter stood up when Jesus said come, and then Peter did, but lost faith in the storm and sank. But the best part of the story is this, Peter cried "Lord, save me!" and Jesus did IMMEDIATELY.
That is what God does He tests us, and we fail, not to judge anyone for this. We are fallen people, ever reminded so, but we must focus on Jesus and His strength we share in faith in Him. He is a ever present strength in weakness.
Immediately. I find it comforting to know God knows everything, every thought, and action. And when we need help, all we have to do is ask, have faith, and know immediately He comes, what a privilage. It has been a tough two weeks. Prayers for Juli and the kids. I am praying for overwhelming peace to hold them.
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pam | September 26, 2019
A broken world indeed ....some of the darkness that comes upon some of the believing Christians that I know its very very broken ...lots of suffering for sure ....even despair . but hope springs eternal except when you have no answers its a very dark night of the soul indeed
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Ines Johnson | September 26, 2019
Well written with words that brings power, truth and peace. Only God can reassure us that this too will pass.
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Pammy Jean | September 26, 2019
That was beautiful, I read about this pastor and it is just so sad, my prayers for him and his family and friends. This life is hard at times and to many are taking their lives, even the ones so close to the Lord, I don't understand. I lost my son 6 years ago to alcohol and I could not have made it to this day without the Lord, you know all about that, I am sorry for your loss as well. Thank you again for such sweet kind words, you are a blessing.
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Ann Lorraine Holmes | September 26, 2019
So much sorrow on earth, my dear Cathe. But we knew this wasn't heaven yet. Hugs to you at yet another time of mourning.
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Pat Learn | September 26, 2019
I am praying for juli and her sons and for Greg and Cathe and the body of Harvest
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Lori Fischer | September 26, 2019
Beautiful, honest and transparent truths in an indescribably heartbreaking situation!! Praying the spirit of God continues to fall down like a flood ministering His comfort and strength on each one! Thank you for giving the church and others the ability to grieve Jarrid’s loss by providing a way for us all to come together and pray, hug each other and just be together! My friend and I tuned online for the services and though we were far away we watched and prayed and still felt close to all those grieving as we heard and saw God move in incredible ways! God is still moving and changing lives. To God be the glory! Continuing in steadfast prayer! 🙏🏻❤️
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Debra | September 26, 2019
I was saddened to learn of this news.
Not only for his family but for His family in Christ.
God Bless you all and may you find the peace and blessing in knowing we will all be together one day in His glory.
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Jeni Roberts | September 26, 2019
I understand the pain your church is in now more than you realize. My Inland Hills pastor Andrew Stoecklein took his life just a little over a year ago. We grieve still but we also know we serve a God who can turn such messes into masterpieces. Even tragedy is not left without purpose when in the loving hands of God. I pray that you and those who knew Jarred find peace and comfort and know that Jesus turns ashes into beautiful and that Jarred is now in paradise with God who loves him so much.
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Sheryll | September 26, 2019
“There is One who hears and understands.” This is the belief that keeps my faith day in/day out. My continued healing prayers for the Harvest family.
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Mary M Williams | September 26, 2019
So sad
May God's love surround his and provide forever them a comforter.
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Henry | September 27, 2019
Simply blessed. Love to read your weekly devotional email and your blog. Thankful for Pastor Greg and you Cathe. May the Lord continue to bless you, keep you, use you to be the vessel of His words, grace, and love. Amen!
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Beverly | September 27, 2019
Thank you for this encouragement. It was so needed. God bless you and keep you.
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Nancy | September 27, 2019
Simple bare honesty. I was one time told the definition of a true sister in Christ "is one who encourages in your walk with the Lord". Your words do , "let us encourage one another".
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Renee Yarbrough w/ cALVARY CHURCH AURORA COLORADO | September 27, 2019
Dear sister
My heart hurts for every one who knew him & knew of him. I did not know either until his time on Earth was over. I have so prayed for his family & church family. Just know that all of us here at Calvary Church in Aurora Co. are praying for healing & understand. Blessings to you & your family my dear sister in Christ. And until we meet face to face in Heave with our Heavenly Father, my prayers will continue.
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Patty | September 29, 2019
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and encouragement, Cathe. My heart goes out to you and Greg, your church family, and especially Jarrid's wife and boys. I understand the shock and bewilderment of suicide as our 19 year old son, Brody, took his own life 12 years ago. We know he accepted Jesus as His Lord and Savior, so we know we will join him in Heaven one day. All of our questions will be answered... or they won't matter at all, but we will be together with our Heavenly Father for eternity!!! I am praying for you all from Nampa, Idaho!
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A h | October 1, 2019
My pain is still fresh, I have gotten out of the shock my of losing our son, and losing my brother nineteen days before. But now it’s coming on a year that my father passed. My heart goes out to you. God has the answer, and I will be patient. My son was taken by suicide. And I mourn him daily, my heart is broken and even though I know my son is in God's hands, I wonder what, why. My deepest condolences to you.
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felistus | October 2, 2019
Hi Cathy, I don't know what to say about this, I am going through that time of uncertainty, not sure what really to think but like you have said I refuse to give up on my faith even when I don't understand a thing. My faith is in Christ. Kindly pray for me for Gods direction I really feel that I have a mission to accomplish but I don't know how and where to begin. I need a God given mentor, someone I can feel free to share what I feel in me and some one who can mentor me in to the ministry I have a desire to serve God. Thanks for your prayers
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Debbie Zamora | October 2, 2019
Hi Cathe, I'm sorry to hear this.. I will be praying.. Hugs..
Love, Debbie.
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Brandy Cline | October 15, 2019
Cathe,
I am so sorry for the loss of a young pastor. My little step brother committed suicide sept 2014 then a week n a half later my older God brother was killed in a car accident. Its during these times we must give our pain to God and know in time your heart will be eased of the pain. Maybe not all of it of course we have to hold on to just enough to remember that we must all stand together and help those in need no matter what. No amount of money or fame can heal pain. But giving back to those in need can help ease it some. I hope that makes sense. Your sister in Christ, Brandy Cline
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