what suffering can teach us
“My ears had heard of You, but now my eyes have seen You.”
It was Job—the man whose name is synonymous with unthinkable suffering—who uttered this deeply poignant and humble reply to the Lord (Job 42:5).
What kind of storm transforms mere knowledge of God into a soul-changing, eye-opening encounter with the Almighty? Job’s story reveals a truth few are eager to learn. It is often through life’s deepest pain that we encounter God most profoundly.
While my trials pale in comparison to Job’s, I too have weathered a storm that has left me forever changed. The sudden, tragic loss of our firstborn son, Christopher, shattered my world. But in the wreckage, I found something unexpected. Immeasurable grace.
God came near. Heaven felt closer. Scripture became more than words on a page. The promises of God’s Word became life itself to me.
While “moving on” from a loss like that is impossible, I’ve learned we can move forward. Not barely surviving, but fully living.
Transformation
The Russian novelist, Fyodor Dostoyevsky’s story is one of transformation born in a crucible of suffering. Condemned to death for radical political ideas, he stood before a firing squad facing the pull of the trigger. At the last moment, a messenger arrived with a pardon that spared his life but sent him to hard labor in a Siberian prison camp.
In that barren, frozen wasteland, Dostoyevsky’s faith was more than an abstract concept—it became his sustenance. He was shackled, hands and feet, but allowed a New Testament to read. Among criminals and outcasts, his suffering stripped away pretense and awakened his soul to life’s deeper truths.
He wrote to his brother that, “Life is everywhere life…in ourselves, not in what is outside us. We see the sun! Do not grieve for me!” His words echo in my heart because I’ve experienced the same paradox: in the depths of suffering, we encounter the heights of God’s grace.
Lessons from the Storm
Some lessons I’ve learned while sitting in the shadow of grief.
- Eternity becomes more real. Suffering peels back the veil, exposing the temporary nature of earthly concerns. Losing Christopher shifted my focus to what truly matters: God, relationships, and living with eternal purpose.
- God draws near. Psalm 34:18 assures us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” In the throes of crushing pain, I encountered God more intensely than ever before. His presence was balm for my soul and His Word came alive with power and truth.
- Faith is refined by fire. Suffering strips away distractions and idols; it purifies faith. Like gold refined in fire (1 Peter 1:6-7) suffering reshapes and aligns our heart to trust God’s purposes even when we cannot understand.
- Resurrection power. Paul wrote, “I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of His resurrection and participation in His sufferings” (Philippians 3:10). A shared experience can forge a deep bond, and Jesus knows suffering. Fellowship with Jesus takes on a whole new meaning when we’re compelled to trust and retrace His steps. When we share in Christ’s suffering, we also experience the power of His resurrected life.
A Testimony of Grace
If you’re in a storm right now, know this. God is not absent. He is with you, and He will transform your pain into purpose. My journey through grief has taught me that suffering does not have to define us—it can refine us.
Dostoyevsky lived every day as a gift after his near-death experience. His life and work testify to the truth that joy doesn’t come from avoiding suffering, but from enduring it with hope.
So let your trial speak. Let your pain become a testimony of God’s power to redeem, restore, and resurrect. This world defines meaning through ease and success, but God reveals purpose in the midst of a storm.
Fear Not
“My ears had heard of You, but now my eyes have seen You.”
Your suffering may be just the soil where God’s grace takes root and blooms into something beautiful. May your eyes see Him, even in this storm.
12 comments
Debbie Long | February 10, 2025
Thank you Cathy, I have many storms right now, I pray with 1 of my storms is to find an home for my family, we have to be out of our home by March 31 st 2025,
Cindy Gephart | February 11, 2025
Thank you.
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Karen | February 10, 2025
Like balm to my weathered heart....
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Jeff Roberts | February 10, 2025
I read your husbands devotions and share them daily. Today, God sent me to yours.
Keep doing what God called you to do!
Thank you,
Jeff
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June Rogers | February 10, 2025
This really spoke to me this morning. God Bless You and Greg for your witness to the world! I love you both!
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Lisa Ann Vafiades | February 10, 2025
Thank you, Cathe. Your devotionals always speak to my heart, mind and soul.
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KitinaE | February 10, 2025
Thank you for sharing. Pain and grief brings people together. It does bring us closer to God.
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NINA C HOWD | February 10, 2025
How poignant, yet encouraging. I always believed I would never survive this kind of loss, yet I read your words and witness the life of a friend who lost her teenage daughter to suicide. It bolsters my faith to know that GOD will always walk with me; no matter what. Thank you for your vulnerability and wisdom.
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Joan Bain | February 10, 2025
Cathe,
This message was balm to my soul. I am facing Mohs surgery tomorrow and reconstructive plastic surgery on Wednesday for BCC near my eyelid. I feel like our merciful Savior gave you this message at this time just for me. Thank you Cathe and thank you, Jesus. With the help of the Holy Spirit, I will endure all to come in the next two days with the peace that passes understanding and with the anticipation of encountering God in a profound way that draws me closer to Him. I have experienced this during trials in the past, but it was refreshing to be reminded of it again.
KC | February 12, 2025
I will be praying for you, Joan. I am in Arizona.
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Maria | February 10, 2025
Our 30-year-old daughter walked out of our life almost 2 years ago. We have no way of getting a hold of her. She blocked our numbers, our email and social media, and we have no idea why. My mom and dad, brother and both sisters have cut us off. Covid was the beginning, Both of my sisters despised our support for our current president. Deeper than that, there is a lifelong secret that my parents forced all of us to keep. What they did to my youngest sister 30 years ago has never been worked through. Pride and arrogance have destroyed the family. I grew up in , My husband and I had enough and finally stood up to all of it. That came with a price. The price is our daughter. Whatever they have her convinced of, it has broken my heart into 1 million pieces.
Cheri | February 10, 2025
My prayers go out to you and your husband. It’s seldom easy taking a stand for what you believe is right. Those living in darkness don’t want their sin exposed and they don’t want to give up their sin. I live in a broken family myself. I know it’s not easy. May God bring peace, understanding and healing to your family very soon. God bless.
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Sandra | February 10, 2025
With a heavy heart, I’m asking for prayers for my prodigal son Peter.
KC | February 12, 2025
As I pray for my own prodigal son, Dustin, I will be praying for Peter!
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Mary Anderson | February 11, 2025
Fifty-nine years ago this month, I too lost my first born, a son. He was buried on my 21st birthday. Even though it has been so many years and he was only a small child, I still feel the void. As I will soon be 80, I know my time to see him again is drawing near. Thank you for sharing, since any grieving Mother who reads your words, can know you truly understand her pain.
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Ruth Holt | February 11, 2025
Thank you for this message. It was a much needed reminder. God Bless
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