Tragic Day, Happy Day, Reflections on the Death of My Son Christopher
Today is the 6-year mark of the departure of my son to heaven. These “anniversaries” are never easy.
I remember that day so vividly . . . July 24, 2008. It was a happy day.
The sun was out, it was warm, and I was babysitting my granddaughter Stella. My wife, Cathe, was teaching a Bible study to Stella’s mother, Brittany, and Brittany’s mother, Sheryll. Brittany’s husband, Christopher, was driving to work at his job at our church in Riverside where he was the art director.
It was almost past 10:00 A.M. and usually Topher (his nickname) would let his wife know he was there safely, but there was no message. Brittany called him and he did not answer. She texted him . . . Still no answer.
Brittany told me and I called and texted Christopher. No answer.
My last text to him was “Where are you?”
You can’t text from heaven.
There was no response, because our firstborn son, Christopher David Laurie, had left this world for the next one at 9:01 A.M.
When I heard the news it was as though time stopped. I could not believe this was actually happening to us. But it was.
There is still such pain and sadness there. It was a tragic day.
Yes, even six years later, I look back on that day as tragic. I wonder what went through my son’s mind as he realized he was going to have a collision. It happened so fast.
Did he cry out for his mother?
Did he cry out for me?
Or did he cry out to Jesus?
Many years ago I took a very young Christopher out surfing with our friend Ricky Ryan. We were waiting for some waves when suddenly a monster set started to build. As any surfer knows, when waves are coming, you either catch them or paddle toward them to go over or under them. You never run from them, or you will be pounded in the whitewash.
A little panic hit me as I thought of how vulnerable Christopher was. I was thankful to have a seasoned surfer like Ricky there. We both looked at each other, grabbed each side of Christopher’s board, and started to paddle full speed toward the huge waves.
Christopher, just a little boy, with eyes like saucers, saw those waves and cried out, “Oh, Lord Jesus!” Needless to say, we survived that day.
I wonder if that is what Christopher said on July 24, 2008, when he realized this life was about to end here and a new one about to begin on the other side. I’m sure it was something along the lines of “Oh, Lord Jesus!”
For Christopher, as he left this world for the next one, it was a happy day. There in heaven he was welcomed by the Lord. One day we will see him again. And once again, it will be a happy day.
So today is a tragic day. But it is, in other ways, a happy day. And one day, it will be the happiest day of all when we see each other and Jesus face to face.
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Gabriela Ponce | July 24, 2014
I cannot even imagine the pain and heartbreak you felt and feel this day. Although a different pain today, it is a tragic day. Thank you for sharing with us all and know that you are in my prayers. I know Christopher is looking out for you and waiting for that glorious day when you will see each other again. God Bless you.
Donna Smallwood | June 9, 2019
Praying always journaling lifting all of you in prayer much. God bless your beautiful family and praise God for your strength and faith. Your all an incredible blessing to all thank you
Donna
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Nanci | July 24, 2014
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Carol | July 24, 2014
Dear, Dear, Pastor Laurie,
My daughter died in May of 2007. She was 6 years old. I have always listened to you on and off and had not heard you in quite some time as I was "busy". I turned on your show one day while I was driving and heard you talking about your son's death. I was shocked and you and your message touched me in such a way as to give me hope in the way you were handling it. . I have so much respect for you and I don't miss any of your messages now. I have turned a friend on to your messages as well, and he really likes them.. I am so sorry for your loss and so grateful for your message and you. When I asked GOD in my pain, what HE wanted from me, I opened my Bible and there it was 1Thessalonians 5:18 :give thanks in all circumstances: for this is the will of GOD in Christ Jesus for you" I have turned my life around. Thank you.
Yvonne | July 25, 2014
What a beautiful testimony!!.. I am so sorry you lost your little girl. Jesus has been delighting in her
for 7 years now and she in HIM!... Praise God for salvation and eternity with HIM.
Carol | July 25, 2014
Thank you...
barbara | March 4, 2018
Yes,unfortunately I understand those "anniversaries". My son isalso in heaven as a result of cancer leaving a young wife & 7 yr old daughter!
Your story helped me in my grief when I was completely alone when I found out! No one to call or comfort me or hold me @ 4 in the morning. When u shared all the people @ your home & u just wanted to be alone w/ Jesus healed me as I then knew it was a blessing to be alone with the only true comforter with me. I wanted to thank you in person at Fresno prayer breakfast but tickets are sold out....know I will be praying while you are here on March 20, 2018! Blessings & thanks!
Barbara Simons
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Morag Robertson | July 24, 2014
Something that all parents don't want to see is their children dying before them, because that is how I would feel. Unfortunately none of my kids are saved at this moment, but we pray for them everyday. I know that you are thankful that your son knew his Lord, and that someday you will all be together. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both at this time. Bless you both.
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Nicole | July 24, 2014
It's just crushing. We remember that day too. We lived off of Weir canyon and noticed the traffic so backed up that day. I even said something horrible must of happened, little did we know that it was your son. Our hearts go out to you and your sweet family...He is in heaven. That is the hope we have. He is there and he is safe. God bless you and your family.
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Tami | July 24, 2014
Thank you for sharing such a touching story. I love your ministry. I lost my brother in a tragic snowmobile accident 4 years ago last February 2014. He was serving youth, as he always was, at a Bible camp, being pulled on a snowmobile. He was killed that day. A youth director was there from Fellowship of Christian Athletes, who told his story. Within 2 weeks of his death, we heard 61 youth had committed their lives to Christ because of the story of his life and death. That's how good our God is, to give us a glimpse of glory in the midst of our storm and heartache.
Thank you!
Nancy Windscheffel | July 24, 2014
Tami - Your brother decided that the best use of his life was to reach the lost youth for Christ...how awesome that God used his day of glory to save so many...your brother is rejoicing :)
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Nancy Windscheffel | July 24, 2014
Thank you for taking a moment to share this with all of us. As we watch you hold on tightly to your faith it gives hope that when unimaginable storms come to us, we too, will get through it holding onto Jesus :) God bless you & your family - you have been blessing mine for many years!
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Jana | July 24, 2014
The pain never goes away for us here on Earth, but there is joy in knowing the wonderful people my daughter is with in heaven, like your son, Pastor Chuck and our Lord and Savior. They are waiting to welcome us! Thank you ever so much for sharing! God Bless you and your family on this special day.
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Morag Robertson | July 24, 2014
You and all the family are all our prayers.
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Gracie | July 24, 2014
Dear Pastor Greg,
Again I want to express deep sorrow that your dear firstborn left your presence, even though I know you will be reunited in heaven, it is still so sad. I especially hurt for you, Christopher's mom, children, & brother. The loss of such a family member cannot be replaced. Thank you for your courage in sharing this very personal pain.
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Brighton Truax | July 24, 2014
It's encouraging to see the strength that your family has received from our Father. We are so blessed to have you as a Pastor, and we are praying for your family on this day. We lost a great young man. Blessings from the Truax Family.
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Susan H | July 24, 2014
A decade ago a traffic crash ended the life of my 24 year old daughter in law, her two year old-my granddaughter Anna and Ann's 2 year old friend Alecia. I recall my knees buckling when my son called to tell me he had lost his wife and child just 30 minutes before. They lived in my hometown 800 miles from my adopted home in Florida. So much of the next week was a blur and I was actually numb through it all. I was not angry or hysterical and I certainly did not cry out to God.....I hardly knew Him, but knew enough not to blame him for my loss.
Years passed before I knew I needed to open up to a relationship with God. I continue to make progress as long as I let go of my efforts to be in complete control and trust Him to know me and what I really need.
I pray your family finds peace today and I praise Our Lord and Savior for the gifts Chris and Anna continue to be in our lives.
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Linda | July 24, 2014
Oh JESUS had your Son written in the Book of Life..... GOD wanted your Son in Heaven more than on Earth..... Sadly your story reminds me of about 6 of my Friends who have lost their Children...... May the LOVE of JESUS comfort you, and your Family.... AMEN.... XO
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Christine Graham | July 24, 2014
As I sit here and read your story about
Your son, tears flow. I can't imagine the
pain that you and your beautiful wife must
indure. I want you to know that you touch
my life daily with laughter and tears.
Blessings to you and Cathe.
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Susan | July 24, 2014
Our hearts are with you today.
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Linda Magin | July 24, 2014
Just posted on Gregs site telling him about how sharing your testimony helping me thru grieving my parents. We passed on the CD series to many. It helps me talk to my cousin who last her son. Your books (reading your devotional/Gregs marriage book) & messages gave me the courage to reach out on FB to a friend's daughter who has walked away. A passage pops up in your words that is exactly what I need to say. Never witnessed via FB before. This is a sad day for your family and I cried many tears for you and with you all those years ago. But you have drawn the courage to share the story and not hide it. This has helped many in numerous ways. I'm seeing it myself right now as another message pops up on FB and she is actually talking about God. Love you you all and your family. Xxxxxx Bless you.
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Lee Lauver | July 24, 2014
When we all get to Heaven, what a day that will be. When we all see Jesus!!! What a day that will be!!
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Jim Calocci | July 24, 2014
as the grief goes out
the gain comes in
we shed a tear
we find a grin
I'm grateful you chose to tell the story. Christopher continues to bless while in the physical presence of God's glory.
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Christine Sainz | July 24, 2014
Thank you for sharing your story, may the Lord give you strength and peace today and everyday in Jesus' name. With love in Christ. God Bless your family
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Bonnie York | July 24, 2014
Since the day this first happened I have wished I could offer some needed comfort, but what could I say to hearts that hurt so deep? I only know I love all parties involved and my words seem best expressed in prayer. I had several wonderful conversations with Topher in his office prior to that tragic day. He had shared some funny things he remembered as a child in the Sunday school and school. He never made me feel like I was intruding on him, or that he didn't have time to talk to me. In fact, a couple times he would have people wait until we were done talking - that amazed me. It was Topher's concept for Prayer Warrior for our kids prayer club. He was excited about helping to draw him for us. We are so proud that they dedicated the Children's Ministry building to Topher - naming it Topher's Place. Every time I enter work I see him in the foyer and I can't help but think about the legacy he has left that will continue to touch the lives of children for generations to come!
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Carolyn Johnson | July 24, 2014
I have never lost a child, but I know it must be one of the most horrendous things that could happen to a family. Praying that God will give all of you peace and comfort at this time in your lives.
Carolyn
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Vernon | July 24, 2014
I feel your pain. I feel the relation to your story. I am sorry for that loss of your son.
Love your teaching.
Vern
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Gabriela Lopez | July 24, 2014
Thank you for sharing your story. I recently lost my father. He was 94 years old and was ready to go home to our Lord and his one true love, my mother. She had passed three years ago and he has been miserable ever since. Your story has really helped me to understand the reasons the Lord does things. I couldn't imagine losing a child. You and Cathe have been such an inspiration to me and my husband. I grew up Catholic and only have been going to Harvest for a year and I have never felt so at home as I do when I walk in the doors. I feel so loved and so at peace. Thank you to you and Cathe for all that you do.
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R. Sweet | July 24, 2014
We are so sorry for your loss you are in our prayers on this difficult day.
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Peggy | July 24, 2014
Thank you for sharing this journey. Hard to believe it has been 6 yrs since you lost your son. Prayers for peace and comfort knowing you will all be reunited in heaven someday.
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Rich Nowinski | July 24, 2014
Thank you Greg for sharing. I cannot imagine the pain for both you and your wife. Thank you so much for following His will for your life. Jesus is talking thru you. God Bless love you brother.
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Georganne Ruth Taylor | July 24, 2014
Today, I thought about your life-changing experience. You have responded to it with an ongoing study of heaven. I was in a life-changing accident. I have prayed and in response to prayer have done a 16 year study of a T.B.I. rehab- the same thing. As time goes by, Cathe's study on Moses answers questions. God has faithfully been with me in the form of the Trinitys. I am sure He has been with you too. Our needs, through the life-changing experiences, have undoubtedly brought us closer to Him than we would have ever been. The one prayer I have never spoken, is, give me back what I have lost. I realize that, in heaven, I will have it all back, and it will be perfect, forever. God bless you and Cathe in your anniversary. "Welcome home", is coming. Hope your future on earth holds all which is good and in His will.
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Dona Sabolick | July 24, 2014
Dear Greg and Cathe: George and I feel your pain. It was so wonderful for you to share from your heart. It was comforting to our souls. We will unite with our sons again. We love you guys. Think and pray for you often.
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Susan Kroeker | July 24, 2014
'Oh Lord Jesus' says all we need. A cry to our God, a cry for help, a cry that never goes unanswered. 'Oh Lord Jesus', help Topher's family today. Praying for you all; crying with you.
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Ann K. | July 24, 2014
I cannot imagine how painful it was to lose your son. But, I thank you for sharing your sorrow and how you look forward to a day of rejoicing with him again in heaven. God Bless you and your family.
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Linda Peabody | July 24, 2014
Thank you Pastor Greg for sharing your story again on this very sad anniversary date. I'll never forget the morning my co-worker and Harvest friend Renee Christiansen told me about Topher's fatal accident and we cried together. God bless you and your family as you continue to grieve on this side of heaven. One glorious day we will all experience the overwhelming joy of being united with our loved ones. Glory to God and His unfailing love.
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Miguel | July 24, 2014
Greg and Cathe I'm so sorry for your loss but just like Greg mentioned one day will reunite in heaven. It's because of Greg that and my wife and I have JESUS in our lives. Your words bring tears to my face. We love you guys. Stay strong and God bless.
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Melissa Williamson | July 24, 2014
Much love, big hugs, and prayers for you, Cathe, and your family.
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Linda | July 24, 2014
Pastor Greg & Cathe, Family,
I can't even imagine the pain this must of been, & still is today. Harvest has been such a Blessing
to my Husband & I, & our Children through the years. It was so brave & humble of you to share with us your
pain, your memories, your sorrows & joys through all of this. I believe this has left us all with a more rich & deeper understanding of the preciousness of our life & our Loved ones. You are ministering the comfort to
others with the comfort you have received from our Precious Lord & Savior Jesus. Your family is beautiful.
Thank you.
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Art Piña | July 24, 2014
I just finish reading your story about your son. It choked me up at the end. It reminded me of when I got a phone call from my uncle telling me to come to the hospital. When I got there, he took me to the room to show me my big brother. He was laying there as he passed way. I got all choked up started to cry out. We just finished burying my Mom 2 week before. Now my brother passes away. Then 6 months later my other brother passed away too. All I can say is my heart goes out to YOU and your family. We will continue to pray for you and your family, that God would give you strength where you are weak. God bless you all!!
Thanks
Art
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Stephanie M | July 24, 2014
I remember that day as well. I was in shock as I heard the news. My first reaction was tears and heartbreak for I knew the pain that you and your family were going to go through. It has been 22 years since my son went to live with the Lord. But each June 19 on his birthday, we climb the hill and release balloons and each memorial Dec 3, I cry quietly in the night the weeks preceding that date. Then on December 4, I suddenly "wake up" and begin the traditions of Christmas and greeting it with the usual festivities....cooking, gift giving. Some Christmases I have stalled and things did not get complete. I later find cards written but never mailed...presents bought but never sent, the Christmas tree not completely decorated.
But each year I vow to try to get through the anniversary of Mikhail's parting in a better more positive way. A wise man who lost his 21 year old son once told me, "it does not get better, it gets different". God bless you today and keep you close to Him.
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Barbara Glorioso | July 24, 2014
Dear Pastor Laurie and family,
You and your family are in my prayers tonight. If it weren't for your faith in the One who promises everlasting life, and the strength He gives you coupled with His love, you wouldn't be able to share this loss with all of us and continue the amazing work you do in sharing the Gospel and growing the church family as you do. Even with sharing your deep loss, you inspire us to keep looking heavenward and trust in Him. Amazing.
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Blanca E. Morales | July 24, 2014
"And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away." Revelation 21:4
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Rowie Porteous | July 24, 2014
We rest in the assurance that one day we will see our loved ones who went ahead of us. It will be the happiest reunion we'll ever have. There will be singing, dancing and jumping. Oh what a joyous day that will be.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I also lost my mom a couple of years back and my dad a few years earlier. I miss them and I still cry when I miss them. But I know they are happy to be with their Creator and Savior.
Last month, I was in critical condition. The doctor gave me 2 hours but within those last hours, I miraculously responded to the medicines. I was ready to face Jesus but I also thought of my son. He's just 11 years old. And I don't think my husband was ready to lose me. I was face to face with death but the Lord extended my life. I believe my purpose here on earth is not yet done. Your son has accomplished God's will on earth and His Creator called him home.
May the Lord continue to carry you in His wings of love. May He be your strength and fortress.
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Sharon Stevenson | July 24, 2014
I understand your feelings that come around every year or during the year when something reminds you of your dear boy. God gives us this passion to Love and when that person is gone from our life that Love stays with us the rest of our lives.
I am unable to read your story because it's to close to home, I too lost my son in July and he was only 25 years. He would have been 50 this year. His daughter, my granddaughter is married to a wonderful man and their son Gabriel, who is named after the Angel is my great grandson. I am truly blessed. What's special is when I see my granddaughter I see her father in so many ways.... it's just amazing.
Its been 25 years and I am crying now because I still miss him and I know your pain.. With time it's easier but our hearts can still ache... May the Lord be by yours and Cathe's side today and show you how much He loves you.. Take care dear one...
Sharon..
Hope you still like the Wreath...
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Cindy Blount | July 24, 2014
I remember the day Christopher died because I thought only people like me with such a sin filled life lost a child. My 18 year old daughter died April 13, 2008. I did not get saved until I was 47 and my two teenage children followed me in professing Jesus as our Lord and Savior. 7 years later our daughter, Connie was killed by a drunk driver. I was still grieving when I heard about Christopher and I knew you would have words that I could hear because you felt the pain and grief I was feeling. Thank you for your book and DVD. The sadness is still with us but we have hope that Connie is in heaven and we will see her again. God bless you and your ministry.
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Terri Green | July 24, 2014
Thinking of all of you this day. Much love for each and our prayers for comfort, from the Greens to the Lauries.
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Benigno Nayola | July 24, 2014
Big Brother, I just wanted to say hello, send my deepest respect and love to you and your Family!
You have been a great inspiration as will as a great mentor. I hope one day I can be as strong in The Lord as you
Sincerely Benny your little brother in Christ !!
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Sandy Thomann | July 24, 2014
Sorry for the loss of your son. I am so thankful he knew the Lord and one day you and Cathe will reunite with him in Heaven.
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Carol | July 24, 2014
Dear Pastor Laurie, I am praying for you and your family. You are an inspiration and I wish you much love, joy, and peace.
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Teresa Leeman | July 24, 2014
We lost our grandson 6 years ago this September, he was 8 1/2 years old. We understand your pain, but we are also looking forward to the day we will all be reunited in heaven. God Bless you all. Love and Prayers for you all.
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Lucy | July 24, 2014
No words... I do recall that day when I heard the news on the radio. Sad day. A special prayer is being said for you and your family at our end.
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Funmi Olaseinde | July 25, 2014
As humans we feel the pain of such loss so deeply, and we tend to question God. We may not understand, in fact, most of the time, we actually don't, but let our trust in Him keep us going, knowing that our brethren in the Lord, your son, has gone to rest in Christ's bosom.
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Michelle Clemente | July 25, 2014
Pastor Laurie, I live in Tampa, FL but my mom Millie has been going to your church for over 6 years. My heart goes out to your family during this time of remembrance. All things work together for good although in a tragedy such as this, that is a hard pill to swallow. My prayers go out to you all and you are an incredible beacon for Christ. Your example during this most difficult time has definitely been a light for many. So Christopher was used for a greater good!!!! Amen and thank you for all you do as his servant. We all love you and your family.
In Him,
Michelle C
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Bobbie | July 25, 2014
You lay before us where to turn during tough times! It gives us incredible strength when we are faced with waves of giants. You lean into it with joy and pain. The outcome is something different than what you were before...like a transformation. Thank you for sharing and giving me power and the boost to move forward!
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Bobbie | July 25, 2014
Certain events are so etched into history....not forgotten...maybe a little easier than the first day or weeks or months or years now. I was married to a minister for 25 years. Then in 2005 everything changed...life and marriage and family was deeply interrupted by a dark sin from the man I was married to...his sudden incarceration and evil deed changed the lives & history of my young children and myself....then I came across you again on TV....almost 25 years later. You and your wife are soooo gifted... unique to sharing the gospel...and right on target with what our culture needs today. Your experiences and the loss bring greater power to your message. The messes we have all been in or experienced are now used for the greater glory of God...whether it makes full sense or not. We have to expose our pains to help others just like you are doing today. Thank you Greg, Cathe, family, Harvest Staff and families, and supporters!
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Loleta | July 25, 2014
Yes, I remember when someone told me your son had died in an accident. It made me very sad because, 17 years ago, I also had a beautiful daughter die in a car accident, along with her best friend. That day has forever been tattooed on my heart. No one can describe the pain and hurt you feel. No one, but another who has gone that journey. The only consolation is that we have a God that surrounds each of us with His mighty hand. He knows our names and has it written on the palm of His hand. Thank You God for caring and taking care of our children. Thank you for sharing your pain and Love you have for your son and for a God that Loves us and really cares for us.
Julie | July 25, 2014
I understand how it is to lose someone we love. I lost my Dad. But I am happy that there is no more pain and suffering. Anyhow, I have a six year old son and his birthday is July 24 , 2008, the day your son died is the day my son was born.
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Diane and Randy | July 25, 2014
The anniversary days are always the hardest. Our son, Kyle went to heaven June 30, 2004. A drunk driver crossed the median, hitting Kyle. I too have often wondered what his last words were. We cry tears with you and are thankful too, knowing we both will see our sons again. Praying and thanking God for His faithfulness.
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Debbie | July 25, 2014
My heart in Jesus and prayers are with your family.
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June | July 25, 2014
It is so hard to imagine what it is like to lose a child. I don't understand, but I do know you have helped a lot of people who have gone through the same thing. He is sitting at Jesus' feet talking to Jesus ... how good is that?!!! I can't wait to meet you in Dallas!
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Lysa Gillette | July 25, 2014
Reading that had me in tears as I have 3 sons myself. It also awakened me to the fact that this life is but a vapor and it has caused me to reflect on where my heart is. Am I heavenly minded or am I earthly minded? Thank you for reminding me that it ain't all about me and it ain't all about here. The Lord is near the brokenhearted. I hope you feel Him there.
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Sandy | July 25, 2014
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you. Please pray for the DeCosta family who just lost their 22 year old son to a brain bleed. He just got married and was married only 35 days. His name was Ryan. He went to see Jesus July 6. He left behind 3 brothers a wife and his parents.
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Letty | July 25, 2014
Everyday is hard when you lose someone you love. You miss them everyday. My husband went to heaven on 7/12/10, he was 39 years old. My heart goes out to you and your family. I grieve but not like those who have no hope, I will see him again.
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Jodi | July 25, 2014
I know there is no greater pain on earth then the lose of a child! Praying Gods promises will comfort and assure you of our great family reunion with our loved ones and our great and mighty Heavenly Father! We pray for your family daily! God bless you all!
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Neila | July 25, 2014
My heart goes out to you and your family. The hope we have in Jesus for eternal life is the comfort we have for today. Thank you Jesus for your promises! God bless you all
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Julie | July 25, 2014
My heart breaks a little when I hear sirens. I Pray at that moment to Jesus :) To the Laurie Family :) God is so Amazing, He has given me Life to share my experiences with you. Your ministry has brought my husband and I closer than before. I lost my mom and grandparents more then 10 years ago and wished 1 day to see them again. With our Holy Lord that will come and we will all reunite in Heaven. God Bless your entire family :)
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Mary Wilson | July 25, 2014
Dear Pastor Greg and Cathe, thank you for sharing this beautiful Tribute to your son, Christopher! I cannot imagine your loss, but I do feel some of your pain. As on March 5, 1980, our Dad was murdered in his place of work in Alhambra, Ca. When a robber came in his garage and beat him to death for the little money he had there. They never found the killer, but I remember The Lord reminded me very soon, that my Dad was with Him. Not to look to the left or the right, but to keep my eyes on Him! Vengeance is mine, says The Lord. And then, I read John 14, where He tells us that He goes to prepare a place for us...! I do believe as you do, that one day we will have A GLORIOUS REUNION! Praise The Lord for His Hope of Heaven and that Heaven Is for Real! Amen
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Therese Pennington | July 25, 2014
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings regarding the loss of your son Christopher. I can't imagine the pain and sadness you must feel. I lost my dear husband George 9 years ago and the deep sadness still is there. It never goes away. It has affected me and my 3 kids greatly. Life is never the same. My happiness is for George knowing he is in God's presence and is free and in perfect peace. Our great hope is God's promise that we will be there too one day reunited with our loved ones. Thank you for your great ministry and the wonderful work you do for Jesus. I have listened to you for years and your truth has been an inspiration and help every day. May God's comfort, strength and peace be with you, Cathe and your family always.
God bless you!
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Candy | July 25, 2014
We remember that day as well, not knowing your family but having such a grieved heart for you and Cathe as well
as Jonathan and Brittany. All I could do was to pray for your comfort and peace. But what I saw, in retrospect,
was a grace from all of you as you walked that devastating time and continued to love and minister to people
even through your pain. It was a message that spoke louder than words. There are no words to express except to say that we are thinking of you all and praying for your family at this time as you remember Christopher and celebrate his life. God Bless you and your family!
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Jennifer | July 25, 2014
You have given me such strength. I am so sorry for your loss. I admire you and your family. While I have never lost a child I have lost my husband to suicide 3 yrs ago. It's been such a struggle. His friends and family have to place blame somewhere and I in their mind am the one to blame. I listen to you Greg, and God truly works thru you to help others like me. I remember the day Christopher went to heaven. My heart broke for you guys. My prayers are still with you, Cathe, Brittany and your grandchildren. On a happier note, both my children accepted Christ during one of your programs many years ago. We were on our way to school. I pulled over and they said the sinner's prayer with you. Again thank you for all you do. Jennifer
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Gina Murillo | July 25, 2014
This is so beautiful Pastor Greg..tears want to come out as I was reading this..you have such a word for all this. But I see the Lord still keeping you strong thru all this. Continue keeping strong and continue ministering to us thru this side. God Bless You! Gina
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Gwen | July 25, 2014
Though I do not personally know you and Cathe, I remember when I heard the news and my heart hurt for you guys. I am so sorry for your loss, it was the unthinkable. I will continue to pray for you guys. God Bless.
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Stacy | July 25, 2014
Thank you Greg for sharing your heart. I have not experienced that kind off loss (3 sons) - but I have a dear friend who lost her son in a car accident, about the same time Christopher departed this earth. Her son was only 15. I thank God for that young man's all-out devotion to Jesus! He was a true leader & follower of Christ - and was never shy about sharing the gospel. Everyone loved his energy. He exuded joy.
Our church is large (not large like yours!)... and our sanctuary holds 900? people. EVERY SEAT WAS TAKEN, mainly by the high schoolers. At the end - it was open mic time - and there were literally 200+ teenagers who shared everything they knew of this young man & how his faith had inspired them. But there were also the kids who didn't know him personally - but spoke of their desire to know Christ for the first time. I have no idea how many accepted Christ that afternoon, but I witnessed first-hand just how God works everything out for our good.
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Carolyn | July 25, 2014
I too lost a son in the blink of an eye on August 8, 2008. He was 20 years old at the time and we had just moved to a different state far from everyone we knew. We had only been there 3 weeks. I felt like I fell into a black hole with nowhere to turn. Our faith is all that got us through that terrible time. I can empathize with you and your family, but like you I know God in His wisdom knew it was time for my son to be free of this life &'we shall meet again.
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Melody | July 25, 2014
I too lost a son on December 28, 2005. He was 20 years old. This was the worst day of my life. I became mad at God and did not want to go on in life. But God reminded me that my son was home with Him and as time goes by I remember one day I will see him if I continue to live for Jesus. Pastor Laurie, I can relate to you what you're saying because every year at that time it is so hard as if it just happened. I will continue to pray for you and your family. God Bless You all!
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Olivia | July 25, 2014
Dear Laurie family thank you for sharing with us this tribute about your son Christopher. I am so thankful for the strength that only God can give you. I too know the pain of losing a child. My baby girl Amy went to be with Jesus 22 years ago. She was only 3 days short of 7 months old. She died of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). It was the hardest time of my life, but God has been so faithful always providing strength and comfort. Whenever I hear of a parent losing their child I share in their sorrow and tears because it always reminds me of the time my beautiful baby girl went to heaven. May God continue to use you for His Kingdom. God Bless Your Family.
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Carmen | July 25, 2014
Dear Pastor/Cathi
I am so sorry for the loss. You and your family are a blessing to so many of us. The love you have for all the people in the world you reach through Harvest. Think for a second how your son is looking down smiling at you. And him telling Jesus look at my earthly father what amazing work he is doing and more to come. God bless you and your family.
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Raenell | July 25, 2014
Thank you Pastor Greg and Cathe for sharing this beautiful tribute to your beloved son Christopher. I share your pain too. I share loss as well. Not exactly the same but, my Dad left here to be with our Lord 9 years ago. Needless to say this was really rough for me because my Father and I were close. I still think of him daily. I'm gonna be honest and say some days hurt worse than others. I'm proud to say that I have God on my side to battle through those hard times. I listen to you everyday on my way to work. You are such an inspiration to me. I always feel your messages are speaking directly to me... Mahalo Pastor Greg for speaking Gods words. Never stop doing what you do. Mahalo for your inspiration!
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Sandra | July 27, 2014
Pastor Greg and Cathe, it brings tears to my eyes reading your tribute to Christopher. I know your pain and sadness not having Christopher here with you. Great sadness everyday no matter how much time passes that we will forevermore miss our children here in this life. We are changed forevermore! This is something that only a parent who has lost a child can understand. It is by the Lord's mercy, grace and love for us that we journey thorough this life looking forward to that day when we will see our precious children in Heaven. I also wonder if on August 24, 2009 if my son Matthew after being struck by a hit and run driver realizing his life was about to end if he cried out to the Lord. My prayer everyday is he did as I know he is safe in the arms of Jesus. I thank you and Cathe for your ministry and encouragement. Your books "Hope for Hurting Hearts" continue to encourage me daily. Anniversaries are difficult as I also will be approaching Matt's 5-year anniversary. God Bless!
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CLRichardson | July 27, 2014
The day I heard of Pastor and athe's son passing I was at work. My friend Phelicia told me and I didn't believe it so I kept trying to find information about it until I heard it on the radio and came to church. I am sorry for their loss, but also happy in away that he didn't suffer. Continue to stay focused and strong. Luv u both God Bless!!!!!!!
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Sandra | July 28, 2014
Please pray for the Alimoren family who lost their son Paul two days ago. He was on a missions trip to Washington State. He went out in the ocean to save two other people yet lost his own life. He was a wonderful young man 18 years of age ready to serve his life for Jesus Christ, had a wonderful testimony. Today his life is with the Lord. Please be in prayer for the family.
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Lucia | July 28, 2014
Pastor Greg, I feel your pain & yes, every anniversary of the moment you lose a child is the hardest thing to go through. I too, lost my son on October 9, 2010. He was 35 yrs. old & had just gotten married 3 weeks before he went home to be with the Lord. I didn't think I would be able to continue life without him but through his death, I knew I had a decision to make..., lose my mind in the world or come back to the Lord. I chose to come back to the Lord & he brought me back to Harvest. Jesus Christ is my strength & is helping me walk one day at a time. I am blessed to have a pastor who I can relate to in joys & pains. God Bless you & your family & thank God for using you to spread the gospel to the world.
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Mary | July 29, 2014
As I read your story it brought me to tears as I too know the pain of losing a son. And just like you I have often wondered if he called out to me his mom or if he called out to Jesus. June 25, 2011 my son only 24 years old was in a tragic accident that took his life and life for me will never be the same because that pain in my heart is always there. Not a day goes by that I wish things were different and that he would still be here with me. It is only by His grace and my faith in Jesus that I still stand today knowing that one day we will be reunited for eternity. My prayers for you and your wife & family. GOD BLESS!!
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Rebecca | July 30, 2014
My praying heart goes out for you and your family on the loss of your precious son Christopher. I lost
my dad in 2005 so suddenly, a heart attack, boom he was gone but never forgotten because the wonderful memories remain in my heart forever. He served in the Air Force since he was 17 years old and fought for our country during the Vietnam War and Korea. The monster that caught up to him and took him so suddenly was alcohol. This memory remains bitter-sweet for me because, I choose not to remember his downfalls and strongholds in his life, only sweet, happy times that generate strength in my heart to overcome the grief. Thank you for allowing me to share my condolences.
May God forever richly Bless you and your family and grand-children.
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sharon | August 3, 2014
This is so touching and really speaks to me and my family-My dear brother died suddenly in April. We are all so devastated by his loss-a tragedy for us. Thank you so much for reminding me(us) of the happy side. I wish I could share it on Facebook so that many others would feel the comfort of your words. God bless you and your family and for all that you give to others.
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Beinda | August 3, 2014
My prayers are with Pastor Greg and Cathe and with all of you have have written here and lost a loved one. I will continue to pray for you all. I am touched deeply by your loss and by your love of our Lord Jesus and the hope and strength you possess because of HIM, our one only true HOPE for new life. God bless you all.
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Doris | August 10, 2014
Losing my child decades ago was wrenching. Much praying and scripture is key. There's a reunion day ahead. Personal. Spiritual. Perfect. Alive. I am glad for Jesus' assurance He will be there when it happens. I can see why Jesus missed us so, that the Holy Spirit was sent to comfort us.
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Linda Surkin | August 15, 2014
Three years ago this Thanksgiving my son took his life. We had a beautiful Thanksgiving and later that evening he and his wife got into and argument. He stood out on the 40 hwy and waited for a car to hit him. Needless to say, when I got the call from my daughter-in-law, I could only hope that there a possibility that my Ryan was still alive.
After all he was my miracle child, and after being locked up in jail/prison for half of his life he proved to his family and friends that he could get his act together and with the help of God was able to be drug free.
But I am sure there was a plan for Ryan, a reason that God called him home that Thanksgiving evening.
I am eternally grateful that I was able to spend time with Ryan and to tell him how much I loved him and how proud I was of him. I still miss him dearly, still grieve that we missed out on so much, but I have a 3 year old grandchild named Isaiah that looks just like him. Thanks you God....and Ryan I will see you again.
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Susan | August 18, 2014
I lost my only child Kevin to lung cancer at the age of 34. He was married, had a wife, daughter Malorie who was 1 and a half years old and a daughter Faith (which my son named Faith Hope) and she was not a quiet one. He never smoked, but we have a very high cancer rate in our family. I was beside myself when he was diagnosed with lung cancer. I thought HOW is this possible. He is just 32 years old and has a family. He is just really starting to live. I BEGGED God to take his cancer out of his body and to put it in mine. I told God I had lived a good life. I was 58 years old. I do not know what I would have done without Kevin's preacher. He came to see Kevin ALL the time and lead him to accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Saviour. I had my own church at the time, but no one ever visited. Gerald, who is my preacher now, told me I needed to pray that GOD'S will would be done, not MINE. My faith in God has grown stronger and I would not be here today if that had not happened.
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Amy Dammann | August 26, 2014
Cathe, Greg, Brittany, Jonathan and kiddos. Beauty from ashes indeed. And the ripple affect of that goes on and on and on. Here's one small pebble in a vast sea of love. Shortly after Christopher entered the Third Heaven, I was sitting bedside of an amazing godly woman about to take her last breath. Nothing short of a miracle that I was able to connect to the memorial service for Christopher online as I believed there was something God wanted "aunt Magdeline" to hear. Right then Pastor Chuck was sharing on how glorious Heaven was and just then precious Magdeline lifted her eyes to heaven and smiled the biggest smile I've ever seen. Soon after she also entered Heaven. How glorious, how marvelous....soon...very soon....
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Janet | November 16, 2014
I lost my brother Rick on July 22, 2014. He and his co-worker were killed by a two time DUI offender. Though the lost of my brother has been devastating to our entire family, and it's a daily struggle, we take great comfort knowing that Rick loved the Lord with all his heart and that he's in heaven with the Lord.
Thank you for your encouraging words. You and your family are in our prayers!
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Laurie | January 29, 2015
I lost my husband of 20+ years on October 11, 2014 due to a car accident. The pain is huge, the missing him enormous. Living without him is so hard. He was a wonderful dad to our sons. He's missed so much by his friends and family. I take comfort knowing he was baptized and accepted Our Lord. Knowing I will see him again someday helps. It's the everyday without him that is the worse.
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Arleen Moret | March 9, 2015
Pastor Greg, I was listening to a lesson with my husband and I couldn't remember what church you taught at. I found this site when finding out it was The Harvest Church.
I also suffered a lost. Not in death, but still here on earth. My son has denied me his life. He wants nothing to do with me. I really need prayer to soften his heart, for him to come back to God, and to let go of whatever is hardening his heart. Thank you for sharing your heart about your son. I am holding onto the truth of God's word. His promise. Thank you for being a brother in Christ to us all.
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Hallie Harker | August 1, 2015
Pastor Greg and Cathe, I am so sorry for your loss! Words can't describe how sorry I am for your loss, just as words can't describe the depth of pain and sorrow you and your family and friends must have felt at the loss of your dear son, Christopher. I had actually heard of your loss a couple of years ago, but this is the first place I've seen where I could leave my condolences. And here we are again, having just passed yet another anniversary. I know they are not easy, but please rest assured that they do get easier. It may not happen as quickly as we would like, but they do get easier with time and God's healing touch. Go ahead and cry and grieve on this anniversary, if you need to. It's okay! But know that God loves you, and we love you, and that it WILL get better. It won't be like this always. And rest in God's peace and joy and love, just as Christopher is doing right now. Sending love and prayers your way from Oklahoma!
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Tim Lueken | August 27, 2015
I'm researching a new topic for our men's bible study and came across this article about Greg's son passing. I was saved at the Harvest Crusade in 1991. I also lost a child ruled SIDS when I was stationed in Germany in the USAF Aug. 5th 1978. She was born on July 4th so she was only 31 days old. Every year our nation celebrates Independence Day and I think of my daughter as a celebration to her birth but Aug 5th is a very hard day to get through. It was 37 years ago and I think of her almost each and every day. What kind of person would she be now. I had 4 more children after that but was afraid to have another as Shawn was my 1st born. My next child we named him Christopher and he breathed new life in my being, another chance to be a Dad. We checked on him endlessly night after night for the first 6 months of his life. I couldn't bare the loss of another child. Because of my Faith in Christ I know where she is and looking forward to seeing her again and know our Lord and Savior is taking care of her.
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Cheryl Riley | August 9, 2016
Its going to be 7 years this April 13th 2009 that I lost my son the day after Easter at the age of 25 to cystic fibrosis. My son was a blessing to me. His name was Christopher Wade Riley and he was a loving kind soul. He never complained one time about his disease, he knew the Lord at the early age of 6. He knew that his life was going to be short here on this Earth so he lived life to the fullest. He enjoyed life every day like it was to be his last and I learned a lot from my son. He passed away in my arms as I sang Jesus Loves Me to him. I miss him terribly, I know that soon I will be reunited with him and we will be face-to-face with Jesus because it clearly says in 2 Corinthians 5:7-8 to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. That's such a wonderful glorious feeling. I love you son and I can't wait to see you.
So I know your pain and know how it feels to lose a child and it's hard and I only get by day by day by the grace of God, thank You Jesus.
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Robert Eyler | November 8, 2016
May the Good Lord bless all of us for our loss, I recently lost my wife to alcoholism at53 years of age, she is the most beautiful person I have ever met in her genuine kindness to others, I like all of us here am heartbroken, and crushed, I pray that the our Lord Jesus Christ comfort all of you, and may find peace somehow, thank you for letting me share, God Bless you all... Bob
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Dale | February 17, 2017
Thank you for your ministry Greg I wanted you to know that I lost my twin sons three weeks ago January 23 and 24th of 2017 I don't know what the rest of life is going to be like but God is been faithful and I'm so thankful for the people around me with their love and comfort no words can touch the pain God bless you and your ministry give you many souls for the kingdom
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josie ferrarus | February 26, 2017
So glad you talked about your son's death. My brother Vince accidentally died about 5 years ago. My mom had called me, the night before and said Vince is not waking up and I said that he was tired, having worked all night, the night before. The next morning my other brother called and said that Vincent was dead. I felt exactly like you did, like I was auto pilot. I drove over to mom's house and immediately knew he was dead (since firetruck and ambulance was out front).
They put his body on the kitchen floor of my mom's mobile home, to wait 3 hours for the coroner. I remember looking at my beautiful brother. My mom placed a pillow under his head and a blanket. On the blanket was a big bear with a baby bear in her arms with the saying (a mother's love).
My mother only lived 14 months after Vince's death
Vince was my favorite of 4 brothers. He was perfect and God was done with him on earth and called him home.
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Margo | March 6, 2017
I remember the day (so vividly) that I heard the tragic news regarding Christopher's passing as a result of a car accident. I think about the Laurie family often and the loss of their beloved son, brother husband and father.
Your faith and strength has provided hope to many who otherwise would have given up when faced with severe trials. It is through deep pain and suffering that we truly come to know the sweetness of our Lord"s grace, mercy, peace and love.
My 7 month old grandson's birthday is July 24th. I will never celebrate his birthday without offering a prayer to the Laurie family for God's comfort on the anniversary of Christopher's passing.
God Bless the Laurie family and all those who shared their feelings and touching stories on this site!
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shirri jones | June 20, 2017
Hello, my name is Shirri. I lost my son, Christopher several years ago. He was my second child, but my only son. His nick name was Furman. He was missing for a week before we found out about his death. I was searching every where, but the police said they couldn't do anything because he was grown. He left 5 children and a girlfriend behind. Furman was raised in church, saved, even wrote Christian music. After the funeral, several days later, I cried out to the Lord. I asked God where was my son? Then I heard your story about your son, Christopher on the radio. You said, "I know my son is in heaven." That gave me so much peace, how God answered my prayer because I was about to lose it. Thank you for being so candid and open with your life. It's been several years now and I'm going strong. Now I teach at a prison and I've told this story to the ladies. It helps me, and it helps the ladies.
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Kerry | July 20, 2017
Greg, thank you. I remember that summer, and that year's Harvest Crusade. Your strength and compassion that year on stage has been a key witness of the truth and trust we have of where our children are.
My son was with me at Harvest that year. Today, he is in Heaven. Just 21 and cancer took his precious last few months. God was in control of his life. It's painful. I miss him. But your words echo in my head today. You said, "I haven't lost my son, I know where he is. And because of the life I have in Jesus Christ I will see him one day."
I thank God for the many things He's done thru my son. And look forward to the hug from my son that awaits me. Some day.
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Susan Green | July 23, 2017
Greg, thank you for sharing the loss of your son. I lost my son in 2/2/08, he was 20 yrs old. He was my only child, and his father, my ex husband, committed suicide on our Denver's grave 5 1/2 months later. The year before he died, he met a girl and they attended church. I had been in recovery for alcohol/drugs since 2002, and God allowed my son to see there was another life than the fun times. I relapsed 2 yrs after and finally accepted my son's death 2014. I surrendered to God again. I am grateful He is a God of chances, forgiver, redeemer and I am His darling.
I have regretted that I didn't have a different story on how I handled my son's death, but today I know my Father has a plan for me and the testimony for the hurts I have been thru in life.
I have been pursing God daily, online Bible studies, watching and listening to other Christians thru TV, audible or music. I am searching for a church home to grow in, I have a granddaughter whom I want to introduce to God. Thank you.
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Ed Freeman | April 30, 2018
It is April 30, 2018 and I am a new listener. I went to your web site and then discovered the loss of your son. How strange God works, my 6 year old daughter, Trisha, died in 1977 from Cystic Fibrosis. I was only 25 years old and it was very hard. I became a Christian when I was 13 and was serving the Lord in a church (and in the Marines) when she died. Her verse, "to live is Christ and to die is gain" is on her marker. She was raised in church and knew about Heaven, as well as a 6 year old can. One day she asked me, Daddy when I go to Heaven (Cystic Fibrosis was terminal for children back then) when will you come? WOW! How do you handle that one!? The Holy Spirit gave me this response: "Trisha, remember when Daddy takes you to the day care and then picks you up the SAME DAY? Well the SAME DAY you enter Heaven, will be the same day I come!" You see, the sun (or better yet SON) shines bright all the time in Heaven! Night fall has never came to my daughter since 1977. I can see her now going from saint to saint, hey Moses my daddy is coming today, hey Joshua my daddy is coming today! Brother Greg, for me it has been over 41 years, but for her IT HAS ONLY BEEN ONE DAY! Thank you, 'A Dad still missing his daugher'
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