The Last Single Girl: Great Love – Part 3
I have left a wake of sin and brokenness behind me as a single woman. I am not proud of it, and have occasionally gone to great lengths to evade the shameful memories, even moving across the country to escape the reminders.
But without repentance, there can never be freedom, no matter your geography or plane ticket price.
The woman at the well also wanted to cut right to the rewards, and thus the redemption. She says to Jesus in John 4:15, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”
Jesus takes this exact opportunity to move past wordplay and rhetoric, piercing straight to her raw and hurting heart. He responds, “Go, call your husband and come back.”
“I have no husband,” she replies.
Jesus says to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is true.”
What a painful moment this must have been for her. I can see her eyes lowering in humiliation as she fiercely struggles against the overwhelming desire to run away and hide from this public exposure of her deepest and darkest shame.
But I imagine Jesus smiling at this, knowing what she does not, that He has not come to condemn the world, but to save it. That’s the beauty of grace.
He has traveled far into a hot and dusty wilderness to meet her on her terms, so that He could teach her His. He will speak tenderly to her, reassuring her that He knows her exact situation, failures, disappointments, and needs.
However, with this amazing grace comes truth. Jesus always speaks truth and shows us our sin. He did not condemn her, but He did not excuse her either. He got to the heart of the matter, saying, in essence, “I know your life. I know you’re a sinner. Now let’s go from here.”
The woman responds, “I know that Messiah is coming, He who is called the Christ; and when He arrives, He will tell us everything we need to know and make it clear to us.”
Loosely paraphrased, it might have sounded something more like this:
I’ve been waiting my whole life to feel whole, for this Great Love to find me. I’ve searched endlessly for that one perfect piece to the puzzle that would put an end to this bitter emptiness. I’ve tried to fill it with so many things, all with disastrous results.
They say He is called Christ, and when He comes, we won’t wonder anymore, nor search in vain. I need to tell Him that I’m sorry, that I deeply regret my sinful life. He is the One who will be everything I’ve ever hoped for and more. Are you… Him?
Then, in Verse 26, Jesus looks into the face of his precious broken child, and says: “I who speak to you am He.”
Some of us have led very sinful lives, walking very dark paths that have brought us to the here and now, just like the woman at the well. There is pain and deep shame in our hearts, believing we have little to offer to the true and mighty God.
Dear reader, know and be comforted in this: Jesus has traveled our hostile lands, climbed our jagged walls, and traversed the punishing deserts of our hearts. Against all expectation and with no hesitation, He will find us and meet us right where we’re at.
He is ready and willing to fill your empty hearts, end your fruitless searching, and remove your sin as far as the east is from the west! All you have to do is ask.
“I who speak to you am He.”
That’s Great Love.
11 comments
Julie | April 27, 2010
Amen! So Beautifully said.
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Maya | May 11, 2010
That is so wonderful! So rich and comforting. Thank God for using you to speak to my heart.
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Denise | May 21, 2010
So wonderfully put. I truly felt like He was relating this message to me.
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Nicole | May 21, 2010
Wow this was beautiful....I am that woman at the well. The only difference is I've never been married. Thank you so much for posting this. I missed the other two parts, however, I needed this today. I haven't been feeling too happy these days. I was in a relationship last year, however, I'm still recovering. Long story short, this article made my day. Thank you
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Marisa | June 3, 2010
As a mom of 4 daughters and one (not married daughter-in-law), this really speaks to the heart. All but one of the girls knows the truth, but are in this rebellious faze, and right now to them the world look better to them.
The one thing I am grateful for is that Jesus is waiting at the well for these girls, and I must keep setting the example I am today, (not the one that I was, because I was that woman at the well, and Jesus was waiting on me), to bring them back to Jesus, with the help of the Holy Spirit.
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Esther | June 5, 2010
At first I thought, this doesn't apply to me, but then I was honest and realized....it sure does. There are many ways we hide things from our past that are too ugly to deal with, even hiding them from ourselves. But Jesus is stating what the truth is and giving this woman at the well the chance to own up to it and even better - a way out of it. He gives us this same opportunity. What a guy!
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Amber | June 6, 2010
This article really touched my heart. Without true repentance there is no freedom from our sin no matter where we go or live- you have no idea how much that little sentence meant to me! What an amazing God we have, that He loves us so much despite our wicked and ugly sinful lives we have lived. He meets us right where we are and is willing to take us by the hand back on that narrow road with loving arms. God is so so good, thank you so much for this article and for this website. I am truly blessed!
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Harley | June 17, 2010
This has spoken profoundly to my heart. Empty and broken I come to the Lord in shame, regret, and just down right disgusted with the path I chose for myself. Instead of obedience, I chose the emptiness that the world has to offer. I have been thinking the answer was to get away, to move away and leave my old ways behind. Thank you for helping me understand that it's not about the location it's about the HEART!!
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Mc Cree | June 18, 2010
Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to speak not only to my heart, but my situation at hand. You're a blessing to us all.
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Blanca | July 9, 2010
This is beautiful.
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Merci | June 26, 2012
Thank you...I needed so much to read this article today. I've been very depressed from a recent breakup. I know the Lord took this person out of my life since I've been struggling to live the way the Lord wants me to live. I look forward to my renewed walk with the Lord, to be faithful and trusting in him who loves me!
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