This is the first of three notes for my priceless and incredibly lovely granddaughters (who are now 20, 18, 16, and 14) for this summer of 2025.

 

Dear Rylie, Stella, Lucy and Allie,

Summer has arrived, and here in Southern California where we live, that means beach days and bathing suit weather. For you girls, the pressure is on to be in shape and looking great. So, I have a question I want you to think about.

What does modesty look like in the age of OnlyFans?

If we could have a sit down talk about something that’s been on my heart, it is choosing to dress modestly in a world that’s always pushing you to show more.

You are navigating a million pressures right now—social media, friends, and those TikTok trends that push you to put it all there to be noticed. But as a mom (or grandma for that matter) I want to share some wisdom about why modesty matters and how it can be a beautiful way to honor God—and yourself.

Sweethearts, the most important thing you can do is decide in your heart to live for God’s glory.

That’s why you’re here—to please Him and shine His love through your life. I get it…some days it might feel like fitting in, or getting “likes” matters more. But trust me, true joy comes when you say, “God, I am Yours, and I want my life to make You smile.” That is your purpose and it’s what will fill your heart in a way no fleeting attention grab ever could. So, make that promise to yourself: to be all in for bringing glory to God, no matter what.

Part of that is realizing that your body isn’t just yours to do whatever with—it belongs to the Lord. Think of it as a gift He’s entrusted to you. This isn’t “my body, my choice”—your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost! Seeing your body as His changes how you treat it.

Modesty starts with giving your body, head to toe (especially every part from your shoulders to your hips) to God. Let your mindset for honoring God be like a compass for choosing clothes that reflect your heart for Him. Don’t let the world push you into showing off.

Resolve to be and do what pleases God. Modesty is not about “rules” or looking boring—it’s about reflecting a pure heart by the way you dress and carry yourself. Yes, you’ll feel the pressure to follow trends and wear what grabs attention—but you’re called to stand out by standing firm.

Remember Daniel in the Bible? I know he was a teenage guy (they face pressure too) but he said, “I’m not going along with the crowd if it means going against God” (Daniel 1). He chose purity, and you can too.

This is a decision we all must make, whether you’re young or even for those of us who are (ahem) of considerable age…that with God’s help, you will keep your style modest and pure.

Here’s the secret: modesty doesn’t start with choosing your wardrobe. It starts with guarding your eyes, mind, and heart. This world is so loud! Scroll your phone and it’s all teeny-tiny tube tops, filters, and all those hey look at me vibes to get attention. It’s so easy to think that’s what makes you valuable. But you are much (much!) more than a flavor of the month trend.

So be careful what you let in. If a show, a song, or an influencer makes you feel like you need to show more skin, hit pause—or better yet, delete. The Bible says to “set no worthless thing before your eyes” (Psalm 101:3) and that’s a game-changer! Surround yourself with things that lift your heart toward God, not drag it into the world’s noise.

It isn’t always easy, I know—especially when everyone around is chasing likes and followers. But, my dearest ones, you’re not made for this world’s approval. You are made for God’s.

Your smile, your kindness, the way you carry His love—those are what make you radiant. Stand out and shine with grace. Let your heart be more stunning than any outfit.

I am so proud of the women you’re becoming! Continue living to please God and glow with His glory.

I am praying for you,

Nama Cathe