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As I sit under the olive tree we planted at Christopher’s gravesite, I can’t help but think what might have come of me had I not had hope! Hope in my Savior and what He did on the cross for me. Hope in seeing Christopher again. Hope in teaching my girls about the love of my Lord—a love so great He sent His only Son to die on a cross so that we may have eternal life with Him and with all those who believe in Christ Jesus. How could I not have hope, knowing the promises my God has given me in His Word?
In 1 Thessalonians 4:13 He commands us, “Do not grieve as those with no hope.” We will see our loved ones again! Heaven is a real place, the dwelling place of our God, and until it is His time for me to join Him there with my loved ones, I have a work to be done here. He has a plan that far exceeds my expectations. Though I may not understand or see the works as He does, I must trust in His ways and use every opportunity to glorify the Lord in everything I do!
The Lord tells us about this day in Revelation 21:4: death is gone for good—tears gone, crying gone, pain gone. Jesus came to redeem this whole creation, not just to take us to heaven. So I must continue on in my duty as a Christian and use my life to glorify Him and share my hope with others who do not yet know Him.
Though my suffering in this present time is great, I cannot compare it to the greater good, to God’s grace. This suffering has built my character; it has strengthened my urgency to know more about God and to share His love for us with others. Romans 5:2–5 says to “rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope.” This suffering has brought me to my knees and brought me closer to my God. I know the One in control! I trust Him and have hope in His future for me.
So what do you do in a time of grief or trials? Pour your heart and your mind into those things you know are true of the Lord. Hope for us comes through the Word, because He loves us! We need to turn to God first in troubled times because He is the hope we are looking for. I may not remember a lot from that first year of grief after Christopher went to be in heaven. I lost my best friend, husband, the daddy to my girls, my security, but I had my Lord! When I look at my journals and my prayer book, I see His faithfulness and I see that by pouring myself into His Word I got through something I never would have thought possible.
We are not promised all good things for those who believe in the Lord. Far from that, we are essentially made the target of the enemy, Satan. Look at the story of Lazarus in John 11; suffering comes to those the Lord loves. Lazarus was one of the closest friends Jesus had on this earth and yet he was forced to die not just once but twice! But Psalm 28:7 tells us that those who put their hope in God will be helped.
Our hope comes from the promises of God, from the foundation of what Christ did for us on the cross! We can be free from anxiety and fear. In Romans 12:12, we are told to “rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying,” and I will continue to do just that!
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Jennifer M. Ferrer | July 23, 2013
Thank you for the encouraging words. I too have lost a loved one, my 11 1/2 yr old son. On Jan 29, 2012 we both were on our way home and we were broadsided by a drunk driver who ran through a red light. Noah died within 3 hours while in surgery. I am the only survivor of the fatal accident that claimed the three brothers in the other car who hit us. I was released within 6 hours with no major injuries. God has been there for me in the midst of this terrible tragedy.
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Michele Lorenz | July 23, 2013
Thank you for sharing how you went to scripture and that helped you through your grieving. I lost my mother in September of 2011. I was in shock and a fog for awhile. We were close and when I lost her it through me off balance. A book was given to me by Hospice that helped me through my grief. I am much stronger. I was surprised to learn that you can grieve 3-5 years. It also helps to carry something of the deceased with you. The verses you quoted are so true. I thought that grieving the loss couldn't get any worse, but it did when my family turned against me. Emotions are running high and I had to forgive them for they knew not what they had done. Our relationship is still broken and I have since given it to God. Since then I have helped my friends through losing their parents and sharing my story.
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Hannah Hahn | July 23, 2013
This is absolutely beautiful Brittany.
Thank you for baring your soul with us.
Your faith and perseverance is such an encouragement
Always praying for you & your family:) xxo
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Tami | July 23, 2013
Thank you for sharing Brittany. I have been thinking of you, Stella, Lucy, Greg, Cathe, and Jonathan, as I remember what day tomorrow is. The pain feels so fresh; it is hard to believe it has been 5 years now since Christopher was suddenly taken from us. I DO rejoice that he is with our Lord, and at the same time, I mourn with you all, as I remember where I was, and what I was doing when I heard the shocking news.
Ecclesiastes 3:3-8 brings peace to my heart as I remember Christopher, my mother, and other loved ones that have departed to Heaven. WE WILL SEE THEM AGAIN!
God bless you, Brittany. You are being prayed for.
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Anonymous | July 23, 2013
This really touched me. When you wrote about losing your children's father and the first year of your grief. My situation is similar except my little boy's father went to prison when he was 2. I lost everything, security, our house, and our family. For your situation there are no words. I am not comparing my loss to yours because they are very different. After his dad went away, my son needed major surgery. Looking back I do not know how I survived. The first year was the hardest. The holidays, birthdays, etc. Grief really feels like depression. I can't explain it. I also can't explain watching my son grow up without his father. It has been 5 years since he went away. It was a death to me and my son. Selling our house, getting rid of his stuff, and all the other stuff that goes with it. It's amazing how you look back and see how God carried you, but in your moment of grief you can't. Hope...that's all we have in Christ.
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Clara | July 24, 2013
I am truly amazed at how God has helped you through this difficult time Brittany. I often wonder what my reaction would be if something tragic happened to me. I suppose the answer to that question remains hidden until something actually happens. It is so encouraging to know that you were able to cling to that hope which is nothing like what our sinful world offers. It is far above & beyond anything that we know. I pray that the Lord will continue to strengthen you & your family & that you will draw strength from Him moment by moment. I pray that you'll continue in your good fight of faith & hope. May your life's testimony encourage many children of God who are facing or could face similar situations. May the Holy Spirit protect you against the enemy's attacks & keep you steadfast in hope!
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Rachel | August 2, 2013
So beautiful! Thank you for sharing!!! I know this is going to encourage so many and God is using you in a mighty way. God Bless you sweet sister!!!
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Tina | October 16, 2014
Yes, Amen! Thank you Brittany for posting. I truly feel the same! I lost my husband, best friend, & father of our child and grandchild of 23 years. We had a loving Christian partnership. He passed 6/9/14 and it's only through my faith, trust, & hope in God that I am making it through each day. This is very uplifting. I am Thankful for my Christian beliefs & upbringing that are so deeply rooted within me that I only feel God is truly the only one who understands and can comfort me during my time of grief. I was blessed to have had a husband who we say had an inside track to Father God! During his last 2 years on earth, he expressed his knowing he was about to go home. He shared his feelings wholeheartedly and openly to family and friends trying to prepare us for the day God was coming to take him home! He was a humble man with great values and Christian beliefs. I can be glad that God allowed us time. I just can't stop worshiping, praying, reading His word, and seeking Him every single moment of the day!
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