God the Great Alchemist
“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”
It’s been a year . . . 365 days . . . 8,766 hours . . . 525,600 minutes. How many tears are in that bottle now?
You . . . put my tears into Your bottle;
Are they not in Your book?
(Psalm 56:8 NKJV)
I am certain that God never wastes a hurt, so I have often wondered, will all this sadness and pain somehow be transformed into much greater joy when we arrive in heaven?
In the Middle Ages, there were men called alchemists who tried to transform common lead into gold. They spent their days trying to discover that essential missing ingredient, the mystical key that would make this possible. They always came up unsuccessful.
I try to add it all up, walk around and around the tragedy of Christopher’s death, look at it from all sides, and reason it out as best I can. At times, with eyes of faith, I can see a divine plan so clearly and yes, I can even rejoice. Our faith is, after all, the religion of the cross, and suffering was the Savior’s path to glory.
Yet honestly, at other times I am swallowed by immense waves of grief and unanswered questions, and I am left perplexed. Like Paul, I say, “I am perplexed, but not in despair” (2 Corinthians 4:8b NKJV).
The Greek word for “perplexed” carries the notion that temporarily we are “in straits, left wondering why and longing,” in this case for our son. This year has not been a cakewalk, but we are not in despair. We, absolutely, are not utterly despairing or without hope.
So I go back to my original question, will all this sadness and pain somehow be transformed into something far, far better?
Paul’s wrote to his friends in Rome about his own suffering and said, “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18 NKJV). He considered, reasoned, and concluded that all that is endured for Christ would one day look so small when compared to the glory and beauty that awaits us.
Therefore, I must add it all up and reason it out in light of His Word and not my own understanding.
Paul’s statement tells me God is the Great Alchemist. He takes the ugly and hard troubles that we suffer and turns them into things of extreme value, far greater than even gold. As Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 4:17, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all” (NKJV).
Listen, girls, in heaven’s economy, you are trading lead for gold. So I will relinquish to God the base metal of my life, my hopes for happiness, and specifically, the future as I dreamed it would be—to watch my son Christopher grow old with his wife and children in a home of their own—and surrender to the Great Alchemist.
Be still, my soul: thy Jesus can repay
From His own fullness all He takes away.
16 comments
Linda Bilek | July 25, 2009
A mother's love will never end. That bond can never be broken. I can only imagine your pain at the loss of your first child, Christopher. How he was growing into such a fine man. The beautiful family he was starting with his wife Brittany. And then he was gone. Christopher was very blessed to have your love Cathe. He knew his wife and daughter Stella and soon to be born Lucy were in perfect hands because you would love them that much more for him, especially because he couldn't be here. You and Pastor Greg were comforted that the Lord would watch over your precious son in Heaven, just like Christopher knew you, his loving mother and father would watch over his beautiful family here on earth.
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Anna | July 25, 2009
The Words of truth spoken here have pierced my heart in a way only the Lord can do. The statement by Paul in Romans 8:18 I feel He has written on my heart for such a time that I am going through in my life and will carry me through to the places the Lord will take me and my family.
Thank you so much for sharing these treasures through your pain. I will continue to remember you and your family in my prayers.
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Marie | July 25, 2009
I cannot imagine what this loss has been like for you, I can only draw on my own experience of losing family. Death is never easy to understand or accept. I too could/can only rely on my knowledge, understanding and faith in God. Whenever I have been with others in their loss and even when I lost family, after the flood of painful emotions, I always come back to the place where I say "your will not mine is what I must trust in Dear God". Give your tears, everyone of them to God. Cry to him. Share your pain with him, share your inability to understand why this has happened. He may reveal things to you that will help you to understand in time. We cannot always know Cathe why God gives and then takes away. I know that your son meant so much to you and your family. God had a reason to take Christopher home too soon for those who loved him and I pray in time he will reveal to you why it had to be so. In the time Christopher was here I'm sure he gave much to all those around him. Love, his own perspective on the world, his faith, the trials he may have put you through touched your life. He has 2 adorable daughters. All that he was and all that he gave, contributed-death can never take from you Cathe. Those things are yours to treasure for all time. I'll never know why some people live long lives and others don't but I've learned that I have to trust God's plan . We know death is not the end of life, you will love your son through all eternity just as you love God. Christopher will love you through all eternity. We are connected through Jesus. Through him we can still know the love of those who have gone before us. My heart goes out to you Cathe because I can remember asking myself the same questions and feeling that incredible loss when part of us is forever gone. I pray Jesus will calm your tears and fill your heart with his love and peace. I know Christopher's spirit is with him. You will know your son again in the life to come, until then I pray you can find some solace and resolution in rejoicing in all that Christopher brought to your life. I can't hug people through this machine but if I could I would give you one tremendously BIG hug. Ask God to help you bear this burden, He will.
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Hope Hogue | July 27, 2009
Cathe, you have touched my heart so deeply. My mom went to be with the Lord on March 28 2008. Not a day goes by that I don't think how things could have been different and she would still be here, but I know that was not God's plan. I know that we will all see our loved ones once again in time. I struggle every day, but the word of God has kept me focused. It's crazy that I remember the day she died - it was a quiet night. I would tell myself "I can't wait for it to be a year from now, thinking the pain would get easier." Time went by so fast, all I can say to you is that God would never put anything in your path that you can't handle. The Lord will always be with you. You're in my prayers.
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Lenya May | July 27, 2009
Cathe, your post is as beautiful and complex as you are. I see glistening hope in the tears and add mine to your bottle. Your walk with Jesus has always been an inspiration. Now the magnifying glass of pain lets us see deeper into the rare inner beauty you possess. Our hearts and prayers are with you. We miss Christopher, too. His smile. His sense of humor. His sensitivity. These attributes were lovely reflections of you. Much love, Lenya
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Tamitha Parks | July 29, 2009
As a new mom of 2 (19 months and 3-1/2), I cant even begin to imagine what that must have been, and still is like for you. But I would like to say you are a true inspiration. As a young Christian, almost one year, you have helped to strengthen my faith, and realize that there is no mountain to tall, or no trial to difficult when you have God on your side, and true faith in Jesus. I lost my mother-in-law in the same week you lost Christopher, and it was at last year's Harvest Crusade, that brought my husband and I to Christ, and we have been followers ever since. Although not quite the same, we were mourning a loss right along with you, and Greg and yourself with your strong faith, also helped us get through our difficult moment. Thank you for showing me what being a Godly woman truly is, and thank you for this website! It is so inspiring!
Tamitha
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Andrea | July 29, 2009
Dear Cathe,
We sent our little one home on August 15, 2008 - so our Anniversary day is rapidly approaching -- seems impossible that it has been almost a year, yet Christopher's passing marks the date in advance for us, as we mourned with you on that day a year ago. Slated to volunteer at the crusade, we went anyway on Saturday and Sunday - Greg's words from church were in our hearts, "where else would we be?" There was nothing to be done for our sweet one, home in the loving arms of our Lord. But there was work to be done and we wanted to be there to put our hands to the plow with so many others. As we did, God lifted the veil of pain ever so slightly that we could see off in the distance the promise of life without the constant pain, life where the memories of what was not to be brought tears of joy.
Your words on Friday were heaven sent and perfectly described the bittersweet pain of the loss. There is peace, but it is past understanding, past wanting to "get it", past needing to know WHY. There are moments when I am "there", and as many when the loss seems overwhelming - seems is the important word for it is not. We are not overcome, we are not overwhelmed - except by Christ and His love for us. In those moments if I choose to reach out to Him, instead of inward to the questions and the grief, then He is always faithful to reach back with the perfect touch filled with peace. Curiously just enough for the moment, perhaps to keep me coming back. . . .
May God continue to bless you and uplift you as you bless and uplift so many others.
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Dee Galvin | July 30, 2009
Thank you Cathe.
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Dyanne | July 31, 2009
Cathe as the tears are falling for you and Greg I am sure God stands in the midst and says I love you both. I was just telling Greg in e-mail after hearing the morning message, I still feel that missing hurt for them and your words help me today to see I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing yourself with me. God's comfort be with you today, Love, Dyanne
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Jennifer Goetz | August 1, 2009
Dear Cathe,
As the year mark was approaching, you and Greg were daily on my heart...we share your grief and if we, as the body, can bear your burden, you know we are here to do that with you...you are a beautiful writer and express yourself and the heart of God in a way that ministers to our hearts. Keep writing Cathe, we are all here for you.
Love,
Jenny
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Laura | August 3, 2009
Dear Cathe,
Your web site has been very healing for me these past few weeks. My best friend lost her 21 year old son in a motorcycle accident just a few blocks from home back in March. She is a fairly new Christian and was making it her priority to make sure her children know the Lord. Little did she know, that her son Paul's life here on earth would be so short. SHe is comforted to know that she will see him again. In the meantime, the pain is huge! I struggle at times with knowing when to help her get out of the house, and when to give her space. I do share scriptures with her frequently either by text or my email and sometimes I pray with her over the phone......I guess I just wish I could "make it all better". I have found this web site to be an encouragement to me as I have a burden to help my friend. I have forwarded the website to her, and she is putting it in her "favorites". Please keep this web site going! I keep you and your family in my prayers each day. One day we will all be reunited. Praise the Lord!
Sisters in Christ,
Laura
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Wendy Butler | August 3, 2009
I don't know you...
I have never lost a child...
I do, however, have two sons of my own and can't imagine the pain of losing them. Long before I became a parent, I became an aunt--a responsibility I took seriously! I love my nieces and nephew as my own and it was because of the fact that my brother and sister-in-law's first child--my very first niece--the very first grandchild on both my brother's and his wife's sides, only lived for 4 days, that I realized how precious the time I have with my nieces, nephew, and my own two boys is. It's hard to believe that my niece would have turned nine years old this year. To hold her and build a relationship with her would be like seeing the face of God.
And as I read your beautiful story...especially about your fantastic relationship with your daughter-in-law-- the kind of relationship I longed for with my own mother-in-law so deeply and is just so impossible, I am encouraged by you. I am so encouraged to know how you have taken courage in the midst of trial and though losing your son has to be one of the most difficult things a mother could ever go through, you have made it easier on the wife who lost her husband and the children who lost their father and the father who lost his son, and the son who lost his brother.
Take courage once again. For just as God lost His Perfectly Pure Son, it was not in vain. He gave His Son, that you may see yours again...that I may see my precious niece again.
Take courage...Christopher has SEEN THE FACE OF GOD!
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Belinda | August 4, 2009
Oh Cathe, tears cloud my vision as I try to write this. I grew up at harvest back when it was CC of Riverside and 30 some years ago. My story is much like Jonathan's as he shared his testimony at the crusades earlier this year. I remember Topher and because of those years we had in youth group, when I heard of his accident I was dumbfounded. It was like an out of body experience for me. The memories of who he was as a young man, the hope I had for him and his family, the shock I had for you and Greg, I thought you guys would be exempt in some way for things like this. It was July 24th and I heard the Holy Spirit once again after years of kicking against the goads... God was calling me back again, knowing that I had wasted many years living a selfish life trying to be my own alchemist and finally after years of my mother's prayers I was ready to come back, to come home and let Christ turn my life back into the gold he had intended. It is a year later and I can't even recognize the woman I used to be (my B.C. days). I have plugged in and will be serving for the first time ever at the Harvest Crusade as a decision follow up counselor. I thank God for you, Greg and your family because it was your example that really showed me what it meant to be a Christian despite all cost. I know it's not easy and you would give much to have one more moment with Toph; I cant wait for that moment in heaven when we are all there together and all the fruit will be realized by what you and Greg have suffered for the sake of God's Glory. I know now that I will be there to see it, whereas 2 years ago I did not. I am so thankful for you and how God has used you to bless someone like me!
Praying for you and yours!
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Lovie Hall | January 10, 2010
Cathe,
My son Ben was killed on March 23, 2008...Easter Morning....he was 16 1/2 years old. There were three boys in the car, Ben was the youngest and the only one that didn't survive. Your words in this devotion reflect exactly the way I am and have been feeling since that day only I could never express them as eloquently as you have here. In all that I have lost, I remind myself what I have gained through Jesus Christ and His death on the cross. Although I still struggle with Ben's death and the accident being alcohol related, I am reminded through scripture what salvation means...my son was saved, that I know....he and I had just talked about his concern for an unsaved friend three days before his death. Why did we have that conversation? I like to think that it was something God allowed to happen because he knew it would comfort me later on.
I don't know why he made the choices he did that day and I very well may never know...I'm okay with that now. I struggle with why I made the choices I did that day...to let him stay with a friend...but again, I am okay with that, too. I questioned a lot after his death whether or not you could die in a drunk driving accident, be saved and still go to Heaven. In studying God's word I have learned that you can't "lose your salvation", we are not perfect, even Christians stumble and make mistakes. Some are allowed to get back up and try again, some are not. Ben wasn't, but he loved the Lord and as you said in your devotion above...if I have to live the rest of this earthly life without seeing him grown up, I can do that knowing that I will see him for all eternity.
I have been thinking and praying for a site like this for months...God led me here this morning...thank you for taking the time to write and to listen. Our family used to watch Greg's services together on AFN when we were in Germany...I am sorry for your loss as well and will continue to lift your family up in prayer.
~Love in Christ
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Dora | January 18, 2010
My son Seth, died this past Christmas Eve at the age of 33, from complications of a seizure. Losing a child, and on top of it, so unexpectedly, like you did, is such a shock - and so inspiring. So many who spoke at Seth's memorial service spoke of what a caring compassionate young man he was, always smiling. They were inspired to do better because of the life he lived in front of them, that they will miss. Another of my sons is also inspired to do better with his own life. Seth lived there in Riverside, where I and his step-father used to attend CC, some 30 years ago. The son that is inspired to do better, was dedicated by Greg, so I know God has a plan for his life. I am inspired by your words here today, by God's Word always. My heart aches some days, like one mother described the pain - "like having open heart surgery without anesthesia". Nonetheless, I know God has a plan. Seth went to be with Jesus on his birthday, was interred on his own birthday. There's going to be one great party/feast when we all see Jesus, you know how He loved to feed His people. Can't wait. God's peace be upon you.
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Susan | February 8, 2023
I read in a book years ago by Catherine Marshall that God is the great alchemist
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